As a generation, baby boomers are starting to wonder how we can leave our mark upon the world. What, besides material possessions, can we hand down to the next generation? How do we capture and define the wisdom and values that we’ve cultivated over decades of experience? How do we pass these precious assets down to our children, grandchildren, and the world at large?
Anyone who’s lived a full, rich life has the potential to leave a vast legacy in the form of stories, letters, photographs, and teachings. But where do you start? How do you begin to harness the knowledge and experience of your life and arrange it in a form that will live on after you’re gone?
What is a legacy?
A person’s legacy can take many forms. It could be as simple
as a carefully crafted letter to loved ones expressing the values and
sentiments you hold dear. It could be a series of scrapbooks containing
photographs, mementos, and handwritten notations. It could be a collection of
recipes, or a series of short stories, or a video in which you talk about your
life and what you’ve learned.
You might start by asking what part of yourself your family
would want to hold onto after you’re gone. Do you possess knowledge of your
family’s heritage that isn’t written down anywhere? Write it down. Do you have
a special skill, such as cooking, gardening, woodworking, or sewing? Make a
video or write out instructions or, better yet, schedule a series of “classes”
in which you teach grandchildren how to perform one of these valuable home
arts. Did you learn important lessons through adversity earlier in your life?
Tell the story of what happened and what you learned from it. You have a wealth
of knowledge and experience that will someday be gone—unless you take steps now
to preserve it.
Start simple
If the idea of capturing the whole of your life and making
it accessible to future generations seems overwhelming, start small. Start with
the facts about you and your family. Draw a family tree or list the names of
grandparents, great-grandparents, and other ancestors as far back as you are
able to go.
Write down key facts about your life, including when and
where you were born, where you went to college, details of your first job, when
you got married, and other milestone events. Make a list of the important
people in your life and how they influenced you. This information alone will be
valuable to your family members, but it can also serve as a framework for going
deeper into each event or relationship for the purpose of crafting stories and
identifying life lessons to be shared with loved ones.
Go deep
Now choose an event and make some notes about it. Don’t
worry about perfect writing. You’ll polish it later. Just get the content down.
Start with the facts. Then jot down your thoughts and feelings about what
happened. What did you learn from it? How did it shape your life? What do you
want others to know about your experience? What can they learn from it? Once
you open the floodgates, the memories and thoughts will flow. Do not edit them.
Just get everything down. No one will see this yet. Consider it raw material
for your legacy.
Create your legacy
Your legacy might be one or more of the following:
- A
series of short stories or essays of 500-1000 words each in which you
write about an event, a person, an idea, or a value you hold dear. Short
stories may be easier for your loved ones to digest than one long,
rambling memoir. Easier for you to write, too.
- A
video of you telling a story or imparting a piece of knowledge based on
something you’ve learned or experienced in your life.
- A
letter or series of letters written to each child, grandchild, or other
person close to you in which you recall shared experiences and express
your feelings for that person.
Build new memories
In addition to the tangible items that capture a piece of
who you are on paper or video, your legacy also includes the memories of you
that your loved ones hold onto. Going forward, build new memories by spending
more time with the people you are closest to, and work on making those
experiences memorable. At future family gatherings, continue to recall stories
from your times together (“Remember when…”) in order to reinforce those
memories.
Building a legacy that lets loved ones know more about who
you are and how you lived is the closest thing to being immortal. It’s the most
valuable thing you can leave behind because it’s almost like you’re not leaving
at all. By sharing the content of your life, you will continue to live on in
the hearts and minds of your loved ones long after you’ve left this earthly
plane.
